Stand by your kids when they sharpen their talents.

I see them every day. Young talented people who feel frustrated because the people around them do not understand how much they want to dance. The truth is, you can't police and cage them, especially after they cross a particular age. They sneak, lie.. and do things you will not be proud of to get here. When I send them back, they just go where questions will not be asked.

I know every parent wants the best for their children or wards, and I tell these kids same when they come to me. But you need to know that by banning them you make the following things happen

1. You create a distance between them and you.

1. You create an opportunity for secrets

3. The child develops resentment for you gradually

4. Since they eventually find a way to dance, they can't tell you what goes on where they dance

5. You are not involved in that part of their life and when things go wrong (and they almost always eventually do) the kids blame you. When they go right you regret why you were not with them from the beginning.

In truth, the love to dance sometimes is a phase they may grow out off after getting involved for a while but i have realized that those with parental consent are usually the most productive.

Personally I recommend the following if you have a young person you are responsible for who wants to dance.

1. Identify where you would be comfortable with them gong to. Introduce yourself and your ward to the person and people in charge and request updates of his or her growth and activities.

2. Stop by unannounced once in a while and confirm activities that go on there. By doing this the chances of your greatest fears are slim and your child or ward will figure out quickly if really he/she wants to dance because the lure of mystery is gone.

3. Complain directly to the person in charge once you are not comfortable with a situation or condition. That way you get an explanation for procedures taken.

By being involved, both you and your ward get the best options available and the abuse that usually comes with neglect is avoided.

If dancing is just a phase, you would both enjoy that period of his/her life and if it is not, you have equipped him/her with skills needed to take advantage of opportunities as they present themselves. #danceworktour #honesthustle #Dancemoms #danceparent #career #training #growth #LEdima #Passion #family #famous #star #DanceWorka

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